When I first got curious about fitness, I’d read, absorb, and implement every single piece of literature, post, article and to-do list out there.
Every day there appeared a new “do this every day,” “never eat that” or “amazing superfood discovery” that made it feel IMPERATIVE and even detrimental to my body if not incorporated immediately.
Before long I found myself with a laundry list of RULES.
- Protein at every meal was not enough… lean protein only. Will get fat and have a heart attack otherwise.
- Dairy made me absorb less fat with food so if I eat nuts, I should have it with milk or yogurt.
- But damn it, dairy is apparently full of harmful things so only buy organic, hormone free, and limit it to one serving daily. Skip it on days where I don’t eat a lot of fat.
- Sugar is from the devil so never eat cookies, brownies, and really candy of any kind. It’s a sign of weakness if you do. Honey and agave nectar appear to be superior forms of sugar so maybe once in a blue moon drizzle this over oatmeal.
- Bread is for people who don’t really care about their health. I mean with all the best selling books and viral articles circulating around, how could one argue otherwise.
- Vegetables are important but the color of the vegetable will determine my success. Pretty sure I need to avoid anything that doesn’t make the super food list. That’s just seems safer.
- There are to be “No excuses” for missing workouts so sleep and REST is for the weak minded. Clearly this is not something I am so I just need to do more and try harder.
I could go on and on and on… but you get the picture.
Fitness and wellness DOMINATED my life.
Because of that, I found going out of town or eating with friends HIGHLY STRESSFUL. I had to have everything in a clearly laid out schedule. I could NOT miss my workout session no matter what.
At every event, I needed to know what was being served, when, and if it didn’t appear to suit my bazillion rules, well by golly, I could not possibly let my precious earned muscle go to waste or my lean zero-fat belly blimp up in a matter of an evening.
I’d eat before or pack tupperware.
Or when even more desperate… I’d pack canned tuna in my purse in case there were no suitable proteins to eat. Pizza? Poison!!
I’d excuse myself to go to the bathroom and down the can AFAP and try to discreetly walk out to hide the smelly can in my car.
I knew what I was doing was weird… but hell I was COMMITTED. If everyone else wanted to be fit as much as me they’d realize all of their mistakes!
And because of that, fitness wore me the F*#K out. I was depleted… physically and mentally. No amount of EFFORT was ever ENOUGH. I could always do more.
Until finally my baby girl noticed my obsession and it hurt my heart. DEEPLY. So much so it literally sent me on a new journey.
I was living OPPOSITE to what I wanted for both my kids and that had to change. Monkey see. Monkey do.
Lord… I did not want them doing what I was doing!!!!!
So I decided MY life had to be a LIVING EXAMPLE of HAPPY and HEALTHY which meant I was no longer going to allow any book, article, or post to create rules that made me feel dirty, unworthy, stupid, or lazy.
Fitness is not allowed to change me or my kids serving me FEAR AND SHAME disguised with information.
And so I’ve made a list of the 10 things I find myself constantly preaching against at home… and even at Sweat Fitness Studio as well.
They represent my core values… as a woman who overcame food and exercise obsession, as a personal trainer who finds herself in contact w/ men and woman battling unattainable demands, and as a mom who wants her kids to enjoy fitness without feeling like there is anything wrong with them right now… as is!
And by all means, feel free to add to the conversation! I am not afraid to defend any of these points and I would also love to hear the things that you are battling with as well.
FITNESS IS NOT ALLOWED TO TELL US…
- Food is earned – We’re not dogs dancing for treats. If you treat food like a trophy earned you’ll find yourself doing “more tricks” for more food. More mileage, more classes, more burpees, more reps. I can’t have this or that because I didn’t do this or that.
- It defines us – You offer this world so much more than just your body. It is not your job to make this world happy with your body.
- Smaller is better – Nope… sorry. The pursuit of smaller didn’t make me happier. Size is not a measure of happiness. Gotta love the now before you love the future.
- Rest is weak – Rest triggers progress. Wanna lift more… rest more between sets. Wanna run faster… rest longer between laps. Wanna curve your cupcake craving… sleep in an extra hour mid week instead of coming to class. Wanna break a plateau… stop dropping more calories and add rest. Watch your body give back.
- No pain, No gain – There’s good pain. There’s bad pain. One burns… the other strings. If it stings… it’s your body kindly asking for you to stop or to rest. It only asks nicely a few times before it snaps. LISTEN!
- 6 packs are normal – Okay so yeah… the fact that Lady Gaga’s “gut” stirred up such a frenzy of haters is alarming. It’s obvious she works out, has her nutrition on point more often than not, and has put time and effort into her overall health. The absence of a 6 pack is not an indication of poor health nor something to hide. Our bodies are allowed to fold, move, and jiggle with us!
- Villainize food groups – There is no such thing as a bad food or a good food. Any food can take on that adjective. It’s about how you view it and use it that puts it into particular categories. Candy is not inherently bad. Candy eaten all day, every day… that’s bad news.
- It comes with a guarantee – If it comes w/ a guarantee it’s a gimmick or a fad. Our bodies are too complex for anyone to simplify into a one way formula w/ a golden guarantee sticker on the label. Change takes time, effort, problem solving skills, failure, re-tries, get back ups, tweaking. Fitness, like life, is neither linear nor fair. Get used to it now… it makes the journey flow so much easier.
- More is more – like basic economics there is a point of diminishing returns. Your body will stop responding positively. Your work load does not automatically translate to equal returns.
- One way – the best way to move is the way that you enjoy and are most likely to return to most often. Sure… there are the details to worry about but if you hate it… it will never stick. Your way is the best way first.
FITNESS is supposed to be an ENRICHMENT of who we already are. If you find that your journey is taking parts of you away, PERMISSION TO PIVOT… PERMISSION TO CHANGE COURSES… PERMISSION TO BE A RULE BREAKER.
When I look back at the complexity of my former fitness life and the paper thin layer of skin and fat that it “rewarded” me with, I want no parts of it and I want my kids to have a role model that preaches and teaches and champions a different way.
To my mommas and daddy’s reading this, I want to take inventory of the things you do and say and FEEL about your body.
Would you want your daughter, your son, repeating this?
Monkey see. Monkey do.
1 thought on “10 Unconventional Fitness Ideas Our Kids Need”
Couldn’t agree more. Don’t let fear rule your life! Try and be more healthy but don’t live your life depressed about what others are thinking. Great article!